Now that I am single again, I have found myself asking, why do I keep attracting the same type of men? Thanks to one of the greatest relationships in the Bible, I now know the answer to that question. That relationship is the one between Naomi and Ruth. Naomi knew that in order to attract something new, the past had to be washed away, so she instructed Ruth to wash her face. My problem was, I failed to wash my face.
I was attracting the wrong types, because they saw the vulnerabilities, the brokenness, and the scars from my past. To a predator, they use those types of qualities to gain control of a person and nothing good comes from that. Things like these are detected by what you say as much as they are seen from what’s on your face. The look of despair, the wrinkles in your brow, and the expressions of desperation and loneliness can be seen when you fail to wash your face.
Naomi understood that Ruth’s broken heartedness from the weight of losing her husband, their fortune, and leaving her family were showing on her face. In order to start anew and fresh with Boaz, it was important for Ruth to wash her face from her past. It’s one thing to get that glowing skin from day at the spa, or a good charcoal mask, but what Ruth needed was a glow from being healed of her hurts. The washing was her healing process.
It is so important to heal before you move onto another relationship. I never allowed myself to heal. I never washed my face. I carried my past on my face. I was attracting duds, deadbeats, and doofuses, all because the disparities of my past were written all over my face.
I cried and prayed and finally got honest with God about changing what I attract. God heard my cry and sent me a Naomi in Pastor Yolanda Douthit. Her desire to see my heart healed let me know then that she was Heaven sent to ensure I washed my face. Washing my face included be open to share my hurts, my wounds, and the broken pieces of my heart. My confidence in Pastor Yolanda allowed me to release all of that as part of my healing process. I finally washed my face.
I am in no rush to get into another relationship, but I am confident that I will no longer attract what I had in the past. My face is glowing now because it has been thoroughly washed. My past is no longer written all over my face. My face expresses my freedom, confidence, and is now fresh and clean. Victory is written on my face!
Deborah Woolard is a single mother of three from Raleigh, NC and she currently resides in Charlotte, NC. She is an ordained & licensed minister and she serves as the Youth Director at R5 Church. Her love for writing, especially poetry is one of the many ways God allows her to use her gifts for His glory. Her poetry can be viewed at https://m.facebook.com/gracefullydsignedbydeborah/.